You know that feeling when something seems too good to be true – when it looks like a lot has happened in your favor recently, so it’s suspicious?
Some people can’t get over this feeling, and their good fortune takes a sinister turn in their mind.
People who have an irrational aversion to being happy suffer from something called “cherophobia.” It comes from the Greek word “chairo,” which means “I rejoice.” It basically means that they are afraid to participate in anything fun.
It’s not the activities that are scary, it’s the fear that if you let go, and are happy and carefree, then something terrible will happen.
Cherophobia isn’t widely, or even well, defined, and isn’t in the latest edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5), which is the main resource for diagnosing mental health conditions. But according to Healthline, a call-in health advice service in the UK, some medical experts classify cherophobia as a form of anxiety.
Someone who has cherophobia probably isn’t sad all the time; rather they simply avoid events and activities that could bring them happiness. Some symptoms of the disorder, according to Healthline, are:
-Anxiety when you’re invited to a social gathering.
-Passing on opportunities that could lead to positive life changes due to the fear something bad will happen.
-Refusing to participate in fun activities.
-Thinking being happy will mean something bad will happen.
-Thinking happiness makes you a bad person.
-Believing that showing happiness is bad for you or your friends or family.
-Thinking that trying to be happy is a waste of time and effort.
In a blog post on Psychology Today, psychiatrist Carrie Barron discusses some possible reasons for people developing cherophobia, or “hedonophobia,” which is defined as the fear of pleasure.
“There is so much talk about the pursuit of happiness these days,” she wrote. “It might seem unusual for someone to fear this positive emotion. If it is due to a happiness/punishment link in childhood, it could be more common than we think.” For example, it could stem from the fear of conflict with a loved one, or a bad experience you associate with a certain event.
“If you are pleasure averse, it may be because somewhere along the way, wrath, punishment, humiliation or theft… killed your joy,” Barron added. “Now you are afraid to feel it because the bubble burst… is coming.”
Barron said a good place to start is digging into your past, so you can try and learn to have tolerance for having fun and experiencing happiness without fearing negative consequences.
In particular, she said treatments like insight-oriented psychotherapy and cognitive behavioral therapy are useful for understanding the causes and undoing the negative associations.
Source: Lindsay Dodgson/Business Insider
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